Compromise

Ok. Now let's see what your problem is. Your problem is you don't like to compromise. Specifically, you don't want want to have to choose between your values (doing what is right) and your desires (doing what you want to).

Of course, most people have to compromise. Suppose a married guy who thinks adultery is wrong. As long as he doesn't want to be unfaithful, he's in harmony. But if he does, he has to choose, he has a problem.

This question could of course lead us to the whole issue of whether we do what is good because that's what we want to do, or because of the consequences of doing it or not doing it. Is a person a good person if he loves to kill, but is just a bit too scared of going to hell to do it?

Your other problem in relation with the first is that you care too much about sincerity. (In other words, that you dislike information asymmetry so much.)

And your third problem is (but maybe they're all the same one formulated differently, aren't they) that you don't like to act "instrumentally" (can't find a better word, but you get the point). You like to do things because you want to, not to get something. You like to be kind, make gifts, buy things etc. for other people because, when and if you want to, not to get something in exchange.

2007-04-01